Rebirth of the Villainous Female Boss
Chapter 913 - Chapter 913 Chapter 887 Thoughts Cant Keep Up With Abilities

Chapter 913: Chapter 887: Thoughts Can’t Keep Up With Abilities (Thanks to zhangxiaozhu for the rewards and more) Chapter 913: Chapter 887: Thoughts Can’t Keep Up With Abilities (Thanks to zhangxiaozhu for the rewards and more) After briefly understanding the situation, Kiara also gained a simple understanding of Jade’s wife’s experiences.

Kiara conducted a simple test on her and found that because of a lack of fatherly love during her childhood, she had an emotional deficit, which later led to depression after childbirth.

Jade’s wife was now in a very dangerous state.

Her heart held maternal love for her daughter, yet she would also uncontrollably dislike this clingy child, who drained all of her energy, yet left her helpless; she truly loved her daughter, even willing to withstand the pressure of her husband’s desire for a divorce, but when she despised the child, she truly detested her, especially when the child cried or she argued with her husband–it was really unbearable.

For the sake of the child, she had given too much, but it felt as though her efforts were unrewarded; sometimes she couldn’t help wondering if she hadn’t had the child, would she live a life free from such anxiety?

These feelings only surfaced when she argued with her husband or when the child was excessively reliant on her; after the dislike for the child passed, she would plunge into deep guilt, feeling she was neither a good woman nor deserving of motherhood.

She even started to agree with her husband’s accusation that she was a woman with mental problems; she also couldn’t understand why she sometimes hated her child so fiercely.

All of this, she said as she cried.

“I really do want to give my child more care, but when she’s especially clingy, and after I’ve been exhausted from a day at the workplace organisation, seeing her that way, I just get extremely angry and hate her. I hate that she can’t be considerate of me; I’ve already done everything I could for her surgery, how could she treat me like this? But then I think about it, she’s only a few years old, still just a kid who doesn’t understand anything. Hating her like this is too selfish of me; I am so conflicted, and so helpless…”

Jade’s wife covered her face and wept, while Kiara watched her cry in silence.

Through this helpless woman, she felt as though she saw the countless women just like Jade’s wife.

They were as ordinary as the people they passed by in the streets every day; they wished to contribute more, like the great mothers sung about in countless literary works, but their cognitive enlightenment couldn’t keep up with their capabilities, and this intense contrast led these women to greatly deny themselves.

Many seemingly contradictory traits came together: love and hatred, dependence and independence, the desire to divorce yet submitting to the shell of family life for the sake of their children. This was the current state of many women during the period of societal transformation.

“Actually, hating kids is normal,” said Kiara.

“What?” Jade’s wife, crying, looked up at Kiara; it was the first time she had heard such an idea.

“What if I told you that psychology research suggests that disliking children is actually a normal reaction; would you believe it?”

“But everyone says that a mother should be great, that a mother should give everything to her child.”

“Yes, that’s what they say. When a woman says she dislikes children, everyone criticizes her, even thinks she is unfit to be a person. But when a man says he dislikes children, many people find it normal. If we look at the behavior of children dialectically, they cry, they’re noisy, unresponsive, not understanding, and they constantly seek your affection, especially when the baby is first born, it’s indescribably annoying.”

Some children are particularly prone to crying, wailing all night long after they’re born. If they encounter a father who is a straight man, believing that children are solely the mother’s responsibility, then it’s a tragedy.

Every night, getting up multiple times to feed the child, change diapers, it doesn’t matter if you’re sick, uncomfortable, or whether or not you’re sleeping soundly–as soon as that wailing cry begins, you have to get up, to take care of the child, no looking back.

Since the baby arrived, life changed all at once.

It’s not just the physical exhaustion, but also a resentment of having to change one’s original life trajectory.

Before having a child, one could occasionally go out shopping with a couple of close friends, do some things you enjoyed, relish some ‘me’ time.

Once you’ve had the child, you dedicate everything to them.

“‘Self’ becomes a luxury after being a mother for a number of years, especially when the baby is still an infant. To look after this little being who doesn’t understand anything, you have to give everything you have. Any slip-up, and you are subject to society’s judgment.”

“The scariest thing is the child falling ill. When that happens, the unkind ones ask, ‘How have you been taking care of the child?’ Many women, within the first six months after giving birth, feeling no fondness for the child is the most normal reaction. Especially when faced with a husband who neither understands nor helps, your baby lacks paternal love; when a child’s father does not provide sufficient care, a child will instinctively demand more emotional support from the mother, at which point the mother becomes even more worn out. Don’t think men are doing enough by just earning money. At the very least, love for one’s wife and child is essential; without it, it can lead to the mother’s depression and the child’s anxiety.”

Kiara said all of this just to tell her that disliking children is not an unforgivable behavior because most women feel this to some extent when they first have a kid.

“But everyone around me seems to really like children, all their conversations center around children, only I…”

“What if I told you that many women who say they like children are just putting on an act, would you believe me?”

Seeing the issue from a professional standpoint shocked Jade’s wife anew–pretending?

“Because of the rigid societal role expectations for mothers, many women subconsciously tell themselves they will be rejected by society if they don’t like children. So they overcompensate by displaying excessive affection for their children in public, with intense displays that actually indicate a deep-seated emptiness. There’s a saying that goes, ‘The more you show off something, the less you have of it.’ But this doesn’t mean these women’s actions are wrong. After a change in identity, many women convince and hypnotize themselves to love the child and be emotionally invested.”

“You’ve given me a different perspective on the role of a mother…are you saying that all mothers don’t love their children?”

“Of course not, what I’m talking about is a very normal transition phase for new mothers, likely still adjusting to the mindset. It’s natural to feel a slight aversion to children due to exhaustion and other reasons. However, as they spend more time with their babies, 99.9% of mothers fall in love with their children, ready to sacrifice their lives for them. I affirm the greatness of maternal love, yet I don’t agree it’s innate. In fact, the bond between mother and child is built through countless everyday interactions, taking care of the little one, their trusting smiles, their dependent gazes–these are the things that make us willingly give everything and gradually become the bonds that last a lifetime.”

Maternal love is the greatest feeling in the world.

But speaking of human emotions, newborns often bring more hassle than joy to their mothers. It’s somewhat bearable if someone helps share the burdens of parenting. However, if one is stuck with a husband who thinks that providing household money is enough responsibility, who comes home only to lie on the sofa, watch TV, play games, who knows the struggles of the mother?

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