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Chapter 897 - 894: As Long as It Puts My Mind at Ease

Chapter 897: Chapter 894: As Long as It Puts My Mind at Ease

"Girl, even the most capable men inevitably show their childish side in front of their families. Your dad does that, and Xiao Yan will probably be the same in the future."

At last, Tong Xiaohua understood that her mother had come to teach her some ways to get along with a lover.

Indeed, she really needed to ask her mother for advice.

Because ever since she had known Yan Bo, she had always felt that she was the one being pampered.

Admittedly, this was a good thing.

After all, every girl wants to have a powerful boyfriend who can pamper and protect her.

But in the long run, might she become a burden to Yan Bo?

"Mom, can you explain a bit clearer?"

Although they had just started dating, Tong Xiaohua felt that she would never want to let go of a man like Yan Bo.

Therefore, she couldn’t let herself become his burden, and at the same time, she couldn’t let him grow tired or despise her.

And on this point, she always felt her mother did exceptionally well.

In others’ eyes, Mr. Tong was a very formidable and strong man, while Mrs. Tong seemed overly elegant, always giving off a frail and fragile impression.

But Tong Xiaohua knew very well that her mother’s skill in using softness to overcome hardness had been honed to perfection. It was because of this that her dad had been almost entirely obedient to her mom for so many years.

Therefore, Tong Xiaohua had always greatly admired and revered her mother, who, in her eyes, was a woman endowed with great wisdom.

However, unfortunately, what she had inherited more of from her dad were his toughness and fiery temper. Only her outward demeanor appeared somewhat graceful, but it couldn’t even be considered noble.

And her inner temperament was even less like her mother’s delicate and gentle nature.

Mrs. Tong reached out and gently touched her head, asking tenderly.

"Then tell Mom, what kind of qualities do you think your boyfriend should have?"

Tong Xiaohua thought for a moment, "Probably just a feeling of security, I guess."

Actually, there should be more, but specifically, Tong Xiaohua couldn’t articulate them.

"Hmm, the phrase ’feeling of security’ seems simple, but in fact, it encompasses a lot. First, he must be strong, possessing the ability to protect you, in order to give you a sense of security. Second, he must be loyal to you, to give you a sense of security. Right?"

Tong Xiaohua thought carefully about the sense of security she had felt that night at the noodle shop when she came out and he pulled her over and held her tight. To put it plainly, it was indeed just as her mother had analyzed.

Subconsciously, she knew he was strong enough to protect her, and she also knew that no matter what happened to her, he would never abandon her or leave her. That’s why she felt at ease.

"Hmm, Mom, you’re absolutely right!"

Tong’s mother continued, "In my view, for many women, a competent boyfriend and husband is actually a combination of father, husband, and son. In him, you can feel the tolerance of a father, the mutual support and understanding of partners, and his dependency and trust in you."

"Similarly, for many men, a competent girlfriend and wife embodies a mother, a wife, and a daughter. When he encounters any troubles, he needs you to listen and soothe him gently, and at those times, you are his nurturing mother. When he’s functioning normally, he’ll stand by you to face various social or family challenges, then, you are his loving wife. When you are occasionally capricious, he will indulge you unconditionally like a daughter... so, as a woman, it’s okay to be whimsically non-threatening sometimes because, most men, actually enjoy this state of pampering their wives as if they were daughters. Of course, this should not happen too frequently. Once in a while, it’s charming; too often, it becomes tiresome."

Staring wide-eyed at her mother, Tong Xiaohua said, "So there’s so much to it? It sounds exhausting!"

Tong’s mother nodded with a smile, "You are our daughter and you have blood ties with us. Yet, even in relating to us, there is much to learn, though these lessons don’t have to be vocalized. But in your heart, there is always a scale constantly measuring and adjusting, figuring out how to interact with us so that everyone is happy without crossing your own boundaries. Isn’t that so?"

Upon reflection, Tong Xiaohua realized that was indeed the case, and so, she could only nod in agreement.

"If between us, bound by blood, we have so many considerations, then imagine being with a complete stranger. He is unrelated to you initially, and you come together out of mutual attraction. If either of you isn’t prepared to compromise and tolerate, then your relationship is bound to be short-lived."

Her mother’s words plunged Tong Xiaohua into deep thought.

The more she thought, the more anxious she became.

"Mom, I feel like lately I’ve just been enjoying his kindness towards me and, moreover, taking it for granted. Isn’t that wrong?"

The serious talk from her mother led Tong Xiaohua to reflect deeply, to the point where she broke out in a cold sweat.

Her mother touched her face, "A man, when initially pursuing a girl, will be especially patient and pampering. But as time goes on, it won’t work if he is the only one pampering and indulging you. He also needs to feel your affection for him, right? If you like him too, you wouldn’t take from him without awareness and give nothing back; I know you are not that kind of person unless you don’t like him."

Tong Xiaohua felt even more ashamed, "But I feel like I really haven’t done much for him. On the contrary, he has done too much for me during this time."

"Fool, in a romantic relationship, you don’t measure each other’s giving and taking on a scale. It’s just that during this period, you have been in a passive position with him. In my eyes, as your mother, it seems you really like him quite a lot. That’s why you are now so afraid."

From her mother’s words, Tong Xiaohua learned and understood much about relationships, of course, there were still many questions in her heart, but considering her mother’s long journey, she didn’t keep the conversation going.

Seeing that it was already one in the morning, Tong Xiaohua wished her mother good night.

Soon, she heard her mother’s even breathing; clearly, she was exhausted.

Tong Xiaohua silently reproached herself for being preoccupied with resolving her own doubts that she had forgotten the fact that her mother was extremely tired.

It seemed she was not only accustomed to being taken care of by Yan Bo in their relationship but also by her parents.

But the truth was, as her parents were getting older, gradually, it was time for her, their grown daughter, to take care of them.

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